Ask Juliette: Should I Text Him First or Wait?
Juliette Answers questions about finding love.
ASK JULIETTE ADVICE COLUMN
6/20/20251 min read
Ask Juliette: Should I Text Him First or Wait?
Q: Dear Juliette,
I went on an amazing date last night. He walked me to my car, gave me a hug, and said, "Let’s do this again sometime." But now it’s the next day and... silence. Should I text him first or wait? I don’t want to look desperate.
– Texting Tense in Toledo
A: Hey Tense Texter,
Let me give it to you straight—modern dating isn’t a Jane Austen novel. You can text him first. In fact, confident women don’t wait around, they make moves. Send a light, flirty message like:
“Hey! Had a great time last night. That dessert was almost as sweet as you 😋”
It shows you're interested, fun, and secure enough to initiate. If he’s into you, he’ll be thrilled to hear from you. If he’s not? You just saved yourself 3 days of obsessively checking your phone. That’s a win either way.
Go be bold, boo. 💁♀️
