Ask Juliette: Is It a Red Flag If He Follows a Bunch of Instagram Models?

Ask Juliette: Is It a Red Flag If He Follows a Bunch of Instagram Models?

Q: Dear Juliette,
The guy I’m dating is great... but I noticed he follows dozens of half-naked Instagram models. It kind of gives me the ick. Am I being too sensitive?
– Feeling Second-Best in Sacramento

A: Darling,
Your feelings are 100% valid—and no, it’s not about being “insecure.” You’re not threatened by beauty; you’re questioning his priorities. There’s a difference between appreciating attractive people and consuming thirst traps like it's a second job. 🧐

Ask yourself:

• Does he also engage with your posts and hype you up?

• Does he respect boundaries if you express discomfort?

• Is his attention addictive scrolling or actual admiration for influencers?

Bring it up casually but honestly:

“Hey, I noticed you follow a lot of IG models. Just curious—what draws you to those accounts?”

How he responds will tell you a lot. Green flag: open convo. Red flag: defensive or dismissive. Trust your gut, always.

Love,
Juliette 💋